Thoughts

Have you ever gotten that feeling, right in the middle of life, that the door is shut on your past? That what happened a week, a month, a year ago is irrevocably gone? That no matter how hard you wish, no matter how hard you try, that part of life is gone forever?

Until now I’d never felt this way about my past, never felt the finality of knowing that a new chapter in my life has begun, and that the past chapters have been written, read, and closed. It’s kind of sad, you know? I miss the people who were a part of my life a few years ago, who are gone now. I never thought I’d say that about some of them, but there you have it. It really is true that you never fully value or love a person until they’re taken away from you – and that’s when you realize how much you loved them.

Sorry for the rather sad post. But I’ve been thinking about these things recently, especially since I’ll be eighteen tomorrow, and I just wanted to share that with you all. What are your thoughts? Have you ever felt like that before?

*And I just have to say it – ♬♫I am seventeen going on eighteen!♫♬*

Branding and a Tag

In the last few days I’ve re-discovered how much I love branding, how important it is to show who you are throughout an entire website, and how fun it really is. After having listened to people like Jasmine Star and Promise Tangeman talk about showcasing who you are as a person through your website and not just presenting hard facts about yourself, I decided to try my best at re-creating my personal website to more accurately show who I really am in a fun way. I’ve always loved dark colors – red and black, specifically – and have stuck with colors like those ever since I started designing. But this time I decided to branch out – and I am so glad I did! Who knew that the black-and-red-color-scheme-girl would use blue and yellow for her website. ;)

Art really is about stepping out and trying different things. So. If you’re working on a design project my advice to you is this – do something different, even if it doesn’t feel like it’s “you.” Who knows, the very thing you don’t think will work could turn out to be the perfect creation!

 
It was picture-taking week a few days ago. I think we all enjoyed it.

Thanks Joy for the tag! The Rules:

1. Post these rules
2. Post 11 random things about yourself (optional)
3. Answer the questions the tagger posted for you in their post.
4. Create 11 new questions for the people to answer.

1. Who are your top 3 favorite classic fiction authors and your top 3 favorite modern fiction authors? (by the word 'classic', I'm referring to authors of the past up to the mid 20th Century, and by 'modern', I'm referring to authors who wrote and lived from the 1960s and up)

My top 3 fav classic authors are Charles Dickens, Charlotte Bronte, and Victor Hugo. My fav modern authors would have to be Suzanne Collins, J.R.R. Tolkien, and Bodie and Brock Theone. (Two people, but they co-author most of their books. ;) )

2. Which character in John Bunyan's immortal classic, The Pilgrim's Progress, do you identify with the most in their/your spiritual journey? (Christian, Faithful, or Hopeful)

Hopeful, I suppose…

3. In J.R.R. Tolkien's The Lord of the Rings, we see that Sam's and Frodo's responses to Gollum-Smeagol are different.  If you were in either character's position when they had a chance of killing him, would you have done so and rid yourself of his wickedness and treachery, or would you pity him, having carried the burden of the Ring yourself, known its temptation, and shown mercy? (P.S. if you haven't watched/read The Lord of the Rings, you can skip this question)

No, I wouldn’t have killed him. He has a good side (in Middle-Earth; of course no one is good in reality) that just makes me feel sorry for his misery. He can’t resist the “darker” side of himself.

4. Which do you enjoy more: reading a book or watching a movie?

Don’t get me wrong – I love reading books! I love books so much that I’m actually writing two at the moment. But really, I would rather watch a movie. I’m a big movie person. ;)

5. What is your favorite kind of music to sing, hear and play and who do you think was the greatest music composer of all time?

Well, I have two types of favorite music to listen to – scores and modern songs in general. I can’t get enough of either one! I personally think Hans Zimmer is the greatest composer of all time. I know that technically I should say Bach or someone else…but Bach, Handel, and composers of their time haven’t moved me like Hans Zimmer’s music has. He is absolutely amazing!

6. Which 2 books of the Bible do you tend to read from the most?

Right now it’s Hebrews and Romans. They are so packed!!

7. Is there a figure in history (outside the Bible) that you love the most? And why?

Yes! There are quite a few, actually. Stonewall Jackson and Agnes Lee (One of Lee’s daughters) are my absolute favorite. Stonewall because he was such a noble man, a solid believer, and such an amazing man. Agnes Lee because I really feel like we would have been friends – I read her journal and couldn’t believe how similar we are. I admire her for her honesty  and her personality, as well as her very open faith in Jesus.

8. Is there a book or movie that you've read/watched and you've wished something had gone differently and would like to re-write it?

Yes. I hate the ending of Cast Away, when Tom Hanks is just standing at the crossroads!! =D It’s just so sad and depressing.

9. What are your 2 favorite scenes in The Chronicles of Narnia (taken from either the films, books or both)? (P.S. if you haven't watched/read The Chronicles of Narnia, you can skip this question)

I actually don’t like the books at all, but I guess my favorite scenes from the movie would be at the beginning, when the kids are on the train and that beautiful music is playing, and also when they enter Aslan’s camp.

10. What are some of the books (fiction + non-fiction) or movies that have inspired and changed your life?

LoTR (books and movies), Gods and Generals, Gettysburg, Braveheart, Les Miserables, Persuasion

11. What do you love most about the place where you live?

I suppose the colors – they do seem to be very bright here! =D

I tag…YOU! Feel free to answer these questions on your own blog if you want to! =D

1. Favorite movie?
2. Biggest dream?
3. PC or Mac?
4. Favorite website?
5. Silliest thing you’ve ever done?
6. Pens or pencils?
7. Favorite book?
8. Coffee or tea?
9. Favorite color?
10. Favorite composer?
11. Opera – yes or no?

Nothin’ Better

Today we hung out at Starbucks, drinking coffee, eating Cold Stone ice cream, and taking photos of each other. Because we're cool like that.

Be jealous.

Somehow those are the best days – when not much really happens, but we are just all together not worrying about life. Those are the times that will become the priceless memories that I know neither I nor my siblings or parents will forget – and I’m glad that’s how it is. I’m glad we have these times right now, because I know they’ll only be echoes from the past one day, that I will only be able to remember them but not go back.

{I was thrilled to get the photos of Lydia, my seven-year-old sister (the one with the red hair), because she usually hides from the camera! This time, though, she had no clue I was taking photos and I was elated to get these! Talk about those tiny moments that mean so much.}

The Only Way to Learn to Write Is to Write

Linking up to the Beauty in Design Challenge.

Oldest is Bestest {But Snow Is Timeless}

We don't get much snow in North Carolina...we live in a place where everyone rushes to the nearest Wal-Mart for bread and milk the instant snow is predicted, even if there will be only two or three inches of that white stuff that frightens everyone here. ;) Our family, however, loves getting lots of snow, and we wait impatiently for it each year. So we were elated to see it start coming down on Sunday afternoon a week and a half ago. Of course, we decided to do a photoshoot with everyone except Maria, who was busy styling her newly-cut Zooey Deschanel bangs and putting makeup on. ;)

{I think I’ve finally found my editing style: cross processing. I love how colorful it is, without being too dramatic. What’s your editing style? Have you experimented with digital cross processing?}

Oldest is Bestest

I’m starting to turn into one of those people who is constantly pining for the past, for the eras when there was no such thing as the Internet or Apple. Don’t get me wrong – I love the web and all the graphic design I do…but as I read and learn more about the 1860s, I’m wishing more and more for that time when life was more peaceful, and when people had deeper relationships than they do now. We have more of an ability, with the invention of FB and other social media outlets, to be superficial; they didn’t have that same ability.

Duties of a Wife.

"A Subscriber" requests us to write a chapter upon a subject upon which volumes could be written and the subject would not be exhausted. Our "Saturday Nights" are not written at the order or suggestion of  others, but upon incidents coming under our own observation or within our experience, therefore written to the point.

But we will answer briefly, as well as we can, that "A Subscriber," and those who are not subscribers may understand the duties of a wife to her husband.

All depends much upon the husband, his character, ideas, manhood, and manner of evincing the same.

It depends much upon the wife, her habits, desires, abilities, and disposition. If the husband be a good, pure, earnest, loving, kind-hearted, affectionate man, doing everything in his power to make his home happy, and to provide therein comforts, conveniences and luxuries as he may be able, it is the duty of a wife to do all in her power to aid him. When a man is aided by some one who is true to him and whom he loves, he each day grows stronger, more plucky, and has given to him by this protecting care the ability, not only to make himself better and better, each day, but to make his home-ones happier.

If the husband be a good fellow - one of these men with a great big honest heart, but given to dissipation - who has more of a desire to spend the time which is valuable to him for rest away from his home, thereby leading himself steadily and continually, day after day, from those influences which made men good, it is the duty of his wife, if she loves that husband, to do everything in her power to make his home happy.

She must remember how she won him. She must remember how she dressed, talked, and acted when he was wooing her. she must remember that some things gave him pain; that some actions, or words, or ideas of hers made him happy in her presence. She must use all the home comforts with which she may be surrounded to the best advantage to make that home attractive, and by "management" seek to interest her husband in home, and let him know she is living for him more than for others. She should let him know that no person in all the world so loves and appreciates him as does she. When this idea takes possession of a man's heart, he is not apt to throw it from him or to take chances outside of the sacred, beautiful influences of a home where lives one whose welcome is dearer to him than all on earth beside.

-From a Savannah,Georgia newspaper in February of 1871 (read the full article here:
http://www.askthecomputerwizard.com/blair/images/page119/Duties%20of%20a%20Wife.jpg)

We are much more apt to take life and comforts for granted; they didn’t have much by today’s standards, but valued what they had. We are all up-and-arms about women having the same rights as men; they understood that society would collapse if not for the gentle wives and mothers at home, and the strong husbands and fathers who lead the family. (I knew the following post would come eventually…it’s something that’s been on my mind continually for at least one or two years. =)  )

Our American society is horribly prejudiced, biased, and blind. I am completely fed-up with the continual discussion of racism, women’s rights, and gay’s rights. I am sick of hearing people commending women who live selfishly, putting their personal careers above everything else; of how being gay or lesbian is perfectly natural and should not be condemned in the least; of how we should continually beg our fellow Americans for forgiveness for the years of slavery, when those who held to slavery are long gone.

I hate the message that is always blasted into American girls’ ears that they owe it to themselves to go to college and grad school, to get a high-paying job and make their life as comfortable as possible. SINCE WHEN was that the highest priority?!? I believe in college. I’ve taken some college classes and would have even worked toward a degree if my college had let me do it when I was fifteen and if I had more money than I do. But I DO NOT believe that college is or should be the be-all end-all of our lives. I will not be getting a degree, because I really have no desire to. My greatest desire is to be married at a very early age (nineteen, what might you hold for me?! =D) and to have a household full of little boys. And I hate that I am already being looked down on for those goals, even by people who are related to me!

There is no shame in having a family. There is no shame in being single, if that is what the Lord has called you to. There is no shame in being a high school grad who is twenty-one, married to her sweetheart, with two children. I think there’s a reason that girls start liking guys in their teens – I think God intended us to marry around our teenage years. If you look at that past, most people married around that time. Even during the Civil War girls aged fourteen and fifteen were getting engaged. Why does that seem ridiculous now? Because teens are thought of as people who are not children, but most definitely not adults. They are not taught, not made responsible. So of course your average seventeen-year-old won’t be getting married for about ten years. And our society has helped with this by putting out the idea that your teen years are the years to sow your wild oats have just have a good time. It’s a shame.

Let the rebuke be preceded by a kiss.
Do not require a request to be repeated.
Never should both be angry at the same time.
Never neglect the other, for all the world beside.
Let each strive to always accommodate the other.
Let the angry word be answered only with a kiss.
Bestow your warmest sympathies in each other's trials.
Make your criticism seldom, and in the most loving manner possible.
Make no display of the sacrifices you make for each other.
Never make a remark calculated to bring ridicule upon the other.
Never deceive; confidence, once lost, can never be wholly regained.
Always use the most gentle and loving words when addressing each other.
Let each study what pleasure can be bestowed upon the other during the day.
Always leave home with a tender good-bye and loving words.

-Hill's Manual for Social and Business Forms, 1888

But on the other hand, those who condemn college and don’t let their sons and daughters chase their dreams are just as wrong as the liberal Americans. I’ve seen many homeschoolers who almost worship their method of teaching/learning, who don’t give their children the freedom they need. We can’t swing the pendulum either way – we have to keep it in the center. That’s why I so appreciate the way society thought in the 1800s. I have never read more correct views on the roles of men and women that are perfectly balanced and so sweet. My conclusion, then, is that what is old is normally best. That those tried-and-true ways and actions from years past are the ways and actions we should follow and do. (Obviously only as they line up with Scripture, though.)

Forgive the rant. I have seen these two extremes, though, from the liberals to the extreme homeschoolers, and had to get that off my chest. But I would love to know your thoughts, if you read all this and want to discuss it!

What are your thoughts on college, on families, on current-day America?

Snow

1915>>fashion

outtakes

My sister and I have become completely obsessed with Downton Abbey…it is, in my opinion, one of the best (if not THE best) BBC productions ever. The storyline, amazing cast of characters (there’s no such thing as a minor character in the show), and cinematography are perfect. And the costumes are the best. I’ve never really liked 20’s fashion, but after seeing the dresses the Crawley sisters wear, I think I’ve been converted.

So Maria and I spent the whole week making various 1915-1920 outfits, and took photos this morning. Hers is inspired by Sybil’s summer dress in Season 1, Episode 1; while mine is a combination of one of Mary’s dresses and one of Sybil’s. (Actually, I think the lace I used for the under-dress is supposed to be used for making a table cloth…but it was the perfect weight and design. So I used it. Just don’t tell anyone that I’m wearing a table cloth there. ;)  )

Are you addicted to Downton Abbey too? Thoughts on the costumes?

*I’ve been tagged! Thanks Eve, Joy, and Sarah!*

Seven things about myself:

1. I love winter and am hoping desperately that we’ll get some snow here this year.
2. I love those divided dishes – I can’t stand my food getting mixed up. =D
3. I have about forty CDs.
4. My brother, sister, and I love making funny videos together; even though it takes us forever to get it all together. =D
5. I can’t stand Apple but I own an iPod.
6. I wish I could travel back in time to the 1860s – they lived with so much more common sense and common grace than we do today. (And I really love hoopskirts! Civil War fashion was the best of all time, in my opinion. =D)
7. I dream about living on a farm out in the middle of nowhere.

I tag:

Allie @ Allie Photography
Sky @ Further up and Further In
Jessica @ The Beauty of Ordinary Days
Emily @ The Little Things in Life
Emily Grace @ A Life Worthy of the Lord